Here are the things your big sister wants to tell you and hopefully, you understand it and realize whatever you need to realize before it’s too late.
- Stop seeking comfort from other people. Friends and boyfriends/girlfriends.
There’s nothing wrong with telling your friends, boyfriends/girlfriends your problem. But turning against your family or choosing other people over your family is not good. I understand your teenage years are full of angst and irritation. “No one understands me” “My family is not there for me, they don’t understand me” you know those are not true.
- When you think you can fool us, you can’t. We just let you be.
You don’t get to fool us because before you go through that shit, we’ve been there, and have done that. “Papunta ka palang, pa-balik na kami. Nakailang balik balik na kami” so no, you ain’t fooling nobody.
- Education is so important. Don’t let the privilege you are given to go to waste.
Education especially here in the Philippines is a huge privilege. You don’t know how hard your parents and those who support you work just so they can give you the best education they can.
- Stop stressing yourself over small things and making a huge drama over it.
Life is much harder after school. Stay grounded, understand that life is not fair but people who love you try their hardest just so you can have a better life so why ya stressin’ over sh*t? After all, 10 years from now, these dramas wouldn’t even matter.
- Don’t be in a hurry to grow up.
You want to be an adult already? So you can just live your life the way you want to? Trust me, it’s not as fun and easy as it seems. One day you’ll look back and wish that you’d be in your kitchen at home with yo mama helping her wash the dishes instead of living the adult life.
- Learn to appreciate and be grateful of everything.
Your family and those who support you give you their everything, the least you can do is be grateful that they choose to love you and provide for you no matter how much of a prick you are.
- Don’t be jealous of the people around you.
So what if they have the latest gadgets, trendy clothes, branded stuff? That is not important nor it is the measurement of happiness. So stop looking at what others have and focus on what you have.
- Your mom and your sister should be your best friend.
There’s no one else in the world who will love you no matter but your mom and your family. The people who won’t judge you whether you fail or not. Those who will be there for you when no one else would be. Learn to love and treasure them before it’s too late, before their or your time runs out.
- Choose what’s right.
If it feels wrong and it goes against your beliefs and principles, do the right thing.
- Go after your dreams.
Go strive for that one thing you dream of doing. No one can stop you if you’re determined enough.
Life is short to waste it on crap, know what would help you, know what works for you. Your angsty teenage years will pass and all of this will be nothing but a memory so do what’s right for when you should look back, you’d have nothing but happy tears. You are young, enjoy it while it lasts and listen to your elders because it’s true, they want nothing but the best for you.