Whether it is you seeking forgiveness or someone is seeking yours, you have to deal with it with love, patience and understanding. It’s easier said than done given the circumstances but in general, you must know that forgiveness is as strong as love.
Forgiving someone for the wrong things they have done is strength. It goes to show that you are strong enough to admit what you did wrong and that you are all for it than your ego and pride.
Seeking forgiveness from someone whom you have hurt shows that your love is bigger than yourself and it is more important to you to make peace with your enemies than float and gloat in a high boosted by negative emotions.
Whatever you do, seek love and understanding within yourself. No matter how much you dislike the person, no matter how they have wronged you, it is much better to be at peace with them so you can be at peace with yourself.
Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself as much as you give to those who have wronged you.
Forgiveness is not just accepting apologies and giving chances.
Forgiveness is freeing yourself from the cruel burdens, heartache, pain, emotional torture, mental discomfort. Forgiveness is not just something you give out to those who have wronged you, forgiveness is opening your heart to the hurt you felt and accepting that in this life, inflicted pain is inevitable but it’s up to you to unburden yourself.
If you don’t forgive other people for the things they did wrong to you, you are giving yourself more burden than you could carry. You are making yourself suffer when in reality, you don’t deserve that. No one deserves that kind of suffering and the sad part is, you are the one making yourself suffer if you don’t forgive.
There will be times that you’re in a darker spot than ever, you may fill your heart with rage and anger. You condition yourself with trauma and despair but trust yourself that that phase is going to end. You just have to feel these emotions so you can appreciate the fruit of this bitter cause. In those dark days, try to welcome the ability to see the light and forgive both you and other people for all the pain you’re feeling. This isn’t as easy as it seems, it would probably take time but the more that you are willing to throw ill feelings, the more it will be easier to forgive.
Then you’ll ask yourself, was it worth it? Was it worth forgiving those who have wronged you no matter how sick of a person they have been? Of course yes. Forgiving is doing yourself a favour of unburdening the dead weight you’ve been carrying. And that for me is worth it.
Only apologize if you mean it. Otherwise, keep your distance and try to live a happy life.
I am a very forgiving person and I’ll always be willing to take a 360 degree turn just so things could be okay and right again. However, I see through bullshit and insincerity.
I don’t know but fake apologies astonish me. I cannot, for the life of me, fake an apology.
I say sorry and I really mean it quite too often than I should, too apologetic for those who are not even worthy. But then, if I am not going to be sincere and if I feel like I do not care, I will just let it go, live my life and will not give you a fake apology just for the heck of saying sorry.
If in case you do not have the decency to realize it yourself, here’s something to look at:
- Only say you’re sorry when you mean it. Otherwise, just keep it to yourself. Move on and let go.
- If you’re only saying sorry because you want to make yourself feel better. Stop. There are a hundred thousand ways to make yourself feel better and taking expense from other people is not one of it.
- If you’re only saying sorry because you want to be able to sleep at night without thinking about a certain thing that’s been bothering you.
- If you’re only doing it for your sake and not for a resolution.
- If you feel like that’s the right thing to do but you don’t mean it.
- If you don’t want other people to be mad at you but deep inside you don’t care how they feel.
If these things are your reasons when you want to apologize, rethink, re-evaluate. These are not the right reasons. Do not fake your apologies for these wrong reasons. If you are really sorry, then do it. If not, then give yourself time.
Saying sorry is more than just trying to save your soul from burning in hell. Saying sorry must come sincerely from the very bottom of your heart. Saying sorry is meaning it and not doing it just so you can make yourself feel better. In the long run, your insincerity will creep out and eat you alive. Saying sorry is more than just the mere fact of apologizing and mending what was once broken. It’s more than just making up for the lost times and inflicted pain. Because saying sorry, apologizing is actually about accepting what you have done wrong and realizing that those mistakes couldn’t have been committed given that you have pondered well on your thoughts than simply reacting towards a certain situation. Saying sorry is more than just regretting. It’s repenting and learning from your wrongdoings. If you are not learning anything from it and you’re still the same old shit that you are, then you’re not ready to apologize just yet.