Before deciding on doing something, we have to think about it first. The situation, the people, will it hurt them, will it improve them, what good does it do to you and other people, do you have the best interest. These are some of the many things we have to consider before planning on doing something. Let’s not go very far, looking back, let’s see what happened.
- Ranting about other people – when you rant about other people you sometimes don’t know if you’re doing it all the time because if you do—then you’re becoming toxic. The thing you can do here is to see other people in a different light before letting your emotions take over you. When you try to understand people, you become more patient. When you are patient, you don’t tend to rant about other people’s actions anymore because you are more understanding of their situation and what is going on.
- Shaming others and turning others against an individual – first off, this is basically wrong in so many levels. So you shouldn’t actually do that if you are a rational human being to begin with. But if you are on the verge of doing so and you are about to blow, try putting yourself in the shoes of the individual you’re about to destroy. If it will hurt you, others may be hurt too right? Aside from that, what will you achieve if you did that? Oh right, a special place in hell. So if you don’t want that special place near Satan, you have to re-evaluate your thoughts and actions.
- Getting angry with people – emotions are always valid, nobody can tell you that you have no right to be angry however, harbouring anger only burdens YOU more than it will burden other people. If you feel angry, think if you also did something that made other people angry. If so, what were their reaction, what actions did they take? Did they have a go with you? There’s no telling how people handle anger, but there’s always self-control. Instead of being angry, try a different method to cope with the situation or the person that makes you feel the way you feel.
Starting to live a more peaceful and stressful life is a struggle. It’s never going to be easy because we’re only human and sometimes, we can’t think rationally when our emotions take over our body. However, we have a choice. It’s either you let your feelings take over (which we all know don’t really help in the long run) or use your mind and think about everything first.
Be in control. Think before you act.