Social Media: The New Burn Book?

DISCLAIMER: My thoughts, my opinions. Let’s discuss in a healthy manner. HAHA

STOP MAKING SOCIAL MEDIA YOUR MODERN DAY BURN BOOK.

I guess we could all say that social media is indeed VERY powerful.

About 5 years ago, my thesis research is about social media and its effects to OFWs and their families. Back then, majority of what we wrote and found out are the positive effects and how it helps the communication in families even when they are miles apart. Now, everything has changed!

Was it for the good or the greater evil?

Recently, I have been seeing “awareness” posts, unleashing the “true colors” of other people for all the world wide web to see. Posts here and there from cheating stories, being a kabit (home wrecker) to a person not paying his/her debts, screenshots of convos, pictures of the people they’re shaming and the list goes on. Different styles, different dramas, same goal = revenge. Revenge by what? Shaming other people? Would that resolve things? I mean they could say “that’s their only way”, why not involve the local barangay, the police, your family, power and other stuff? Other normal and civil stuff.      I mean social media is being used as a tool, the modern burn book of society.

I came across a Facebook post recently about a girlfriend cheating on her boyfriend for the last 7 years. The guy posted the whole story, dropped the names of the guys that his girlfriend apparently had sex with while being on a relationship with him. Unleashing every single dirty detail about that girl he loved for 7 years. Maybe out of spite? Out of anger and uncontrolled emotions? But posting horrible things like that, flaunting the pictures and screenshots of convos without blurring out the names of people who are involved and the like does not even resolve anything. That does not even take away the pain you actually feel of being cheated on. That’s plain pathetic, immature and well—stupid.

I’m not saying that hey, I can solve things easily with other methods instead of posting nasty things, sending screenshots and all but there are a ton of ways to actually solve things. I am not into violence ah, pero sapakin mo na kung may problema ka, di yung post post ka pa, screenshot screenshot pa eh.

Or if you don’t even want to resolve anything with that person, might as well move on, write in your blog, pour out your feelings WITHOUT harming other people’s reputation, dropping name bombs and all that.

I have been through painful shit with my ex-friends but I never wrote their names nor posted their shit on social media because that wouldn’t make me gain anything. And at the end of the day, it’ll make me look pathetic and helpless. I write whatever I feel, I write and have written what I went through as a coping mechanism, something that will help me heal but I didn’t say their names or showed their photos. I’d never do that not because I want to be friends with them still, but because aside from them being my friends for a long time na may pinagsamahan talaga kami, I wouldn’t want to destroy them and blow things out of proportion even more than it has already been 😉

Also, think about the families of these people you’re bashing on social media. They will definitely be affected diba, They don’t deserve that.

If it’s a personal issue or a concern between someone else, don’t involve the public and those who are not to be involved. It’s best to keep it to yourselves and not post crappy things like this.

(May hugot ako sa screenshots? Lol) But diba, it’s weak kasi eh. If you want to argue with someone, awayin mo nalang in person, awayin mo sa groupchat nyo (hehhezz) pero to post for everyone to see? Seriously?

If then that it’s a social issue concerning the country and stuff like that, it’s okay but making Facebook and other social media platforms your burn book? That’s wrong in so many levels.

I am also not saying that it’s okay to be cheated on or it’s okay to be fooled and stuff. All these things that cause so much emotional trauma and pain to others are not right nor will it ever be, I’m just saying that there are other ways to heal and move on without causing havoc and paninira. Cause then if what you’re saying is true, it will resurface one way or another without you—having to say it. Just my opinion heh.

UPDATE: If parinig and rants naman, it’s okay, we all do that we go through stuff like that na nagpaparinig and nagrarant, pero to the point na malalantad muka nung kaaway mo just because super galit ka na or irita ka na at nag-viral na di rin yata maganda? Iba din effects and repercussions not just sa inyong mga involved but to the people. Personal matters, hindi magandang nakikisawsaw ang mga hindi naman kilala.

 

photos not mine, taken from google.
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27 thoughts on “Social Media: The New Burn Book?

  1. Aray ko. Dahan dahan naman po! Hahah charot lang! Pero this is true. I used to use social media just to make parinig. How immature diba? Pero naggrow up na ako. Narealize ko ang attention seeker ko. Haha. Pero totoo ito and actually, nakakainis ung mga nagsshare na nakikisawsaw pa sa gulong wala naman silang kinalaman miski .00001%! I don’t get their point para ishare pa ni hindi naman nila kilala haha

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    1. Gurl, oks lang yung parinig parinig keme eh hahaha pero yung nakikita ko recently, pati pic nung mga tao nakapost, tapos yung mga convo nila nakapost din tapos buong pangalan ng mga ibang tao na hindi talaga directly involved nakapost din nakakaloka hahahaha

      send ko na ba sayo yung link? HAHAHA nakita ko yun kasi parang nagviral na siya eh.

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      1. Haha. Wala pa peymuth lang sila. Charot! Pero seriously.. Kaya minsan nakakatoxic lang magbasa sa mga social media lalo na may araw na puro non-sense naman talaga ung mababasa mo. Akala nila mapapatokhang nila sa social media ung mga ganyern haha. Di nila naiisip na sa kanila nagrereflect un pinopost nila. Tse

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      1. Oo nga yung mga ganung bagay kasi pwede naman in private na lang pag usapan, pag pinost kasi parang sobrang masisira na yung pagkatao nung tao, makikilala siya dahil sa pagkakamali na yun, parang wala ng chance magbago. 😣 pero di rin naman natin sila masisisi.

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  2. “(May hugot ako sa screenshots? Lol) But diba, it’s weak kasi eh. If you want to argue with someone, awayin mo nalang in person, awayin mo sa groupchat nyo (hehhezz) pero to post for everyone to see? Seriously?”

    — AGREE pero kasi dumadaan talaga ang tao sa immaturity. Lahat naman tayo. It’s just taking a long time for them to mature pero magmamature din sila.

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    1. Yung mga parinig parinig and rants okay lang besh eh. Kasi yun yung pano nailalabas yung emosyon, pero yung iba kasi below the belt. Last time nakita ko may screenshots na parang nagpadala yung gurlaloo ng pic ng pwet nya tapos nisend dun sa guy, etong gf ni guy pinost yung pic ng pwet ni gurl HAHAHAH nakakawindang hahaha

      siguro nga, magmamature din naman in time 😀

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  3. Nako laganap yan sa Twitter at sobrang unhealthy. What’s worse is minsan yung mga sikat pa na tao or sites or pages minsan ang nagffuel ng fire –
    for attention and views din nila. Self-centered reasons. It’s disappointing lalo na lahat ng tao (especially kids) may mga social media din. This is the kind of environment/society they will grow up in and they’ll think that this is acceptable.

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    1. Yung post kasi nakita ko sa parang fb account na mga nagpopost ng mga link, memes ganern tapos sobrang tita ko or patola ako nireport ko ahahhaha ayun tinanggal ni FB kasi nireview daw nila keme.

      May iba pa kasing way diba kung pano isettle yung issue or magdemandahan nalang sila kung gusto nila haahha pero yung kasi nakapost pa talaga, pati yung pagmumuka nung mga taong hindi naman aware sa issue, nakapost din?! Nakakaloka.

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  4. 1. Guilty ako sa pagrarant at pagpaparinig sa Twitter. Kaya ako nagbalik-loob after kong ideactivate yung first account ko na 3 years worth of rant at kung ano anong eme lang, dahil hindi ko magawang magrant sa FB. HAHAHAHA. Lately, hindi na detalyadong parinig. Kung anong nararamdaman ko na lang, ganern.

    2. Ang ayoko lang talaga today eh yung mga media personalities and celebreties na madaming followers tapos dun nagsspread ng hate and FAKE NEWS (e.g. Mocha Uson Blog). There was even a time I unfollowed almost all news pages kasi ang comments ng mga tao out of this world. Nakakainit ulo.

    3. Nabanggit ko na ‘to nung nagpost ako na maguninstall ako ng FB (tapos nireinstall ko lang ulit ng dahil sa TFIOB). May mga FB friends ako na mahilig iFB ung problema, na ultimo utang dun sinisingil. Di naman nagnename drop. Pero feeling ko lang kasi may mga bagay na pwede namang pagusapan ng PM or personal. Hindi na kailangang ibroadcast online. Minsan hindi ko alam kung mahihiya ako dun sa taong nirereklamo nila or sila mismo na nagrereklamo.

    4. As for viral post/videos, if one feel violated, my anti-cyber crime law. They could always file a case if they want. Lalo na kung large scale. May nakita pa ko one time, ung misis pinublicize niya ung pambabae ng asawa niya, with screenshots, and actual names of the persons involved. So syempre ang mga netizens, sawsaw galore na. If I were the kabit, I can file a case for cyberbullying. If I were the legal wife, I’ll file an adultery case na lang since I have the evidence. Mas mawiwindang pa sila since kulong yun and not just public shaming.

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    1. Ako din naman rant galore sa twitter at full on ang emosyon sa blog ahahaha pero syempre alam naman natin kung ano tama and mali eh. I guess yung nakakainis kasi yung mga teenagers na mga papansin na mga famewhore na makaganti lang yung gusto.

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      1. Yung papansin — May nakita akong post ni Senyora one time, mga bagets, grade 4 or 5? Nagbabatian ng monthsary. “Happy 3rd Months” na nakasulat sa cartolina. Hindi ko alam kung maiinis ako kay Senyora or dun sa dalawang bagets. HAHAHA.

        Tapos naiisip ko, si Flamie pwede lang magboyfriend kapag trenta na siya! HAHAHAHAHAHA. Ang bata bata ang lalandeee!

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  5. I 100% agree with this!! So sad how many posts I see of screenshots and “calling people out”! Today the first post on my FB was a long paragraph written in all caps talking shit about her baby daddy, used his real name, and aired so much of their dirty laundry. I was like “oh damn.” 😆

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  6. Ramdam kita Ey-la. Nakakabanas naman kase yung mga nagpapasaring, nagpaparinig at nagmamaktol sa FB. Kung may problema kase sila, dapat pag-usapan na lang nila. Or gaya ng sabi mo, ‘magsapakan’ na lang kung gusto nila. Sponsoran ko pa sila ng Everlast or Cleto Reyes gloves, pili lang sila.

    Ang gawin mo, wag mo na lang pansinin. Sad to say wala na tayo magagawa dyan. Kinain na sila ng sistema. Mag focus na lang tayo sa mga bagay na positibo. Kaya ang masasabi ko lang, “bahala kayong magparinigan dyan. Basta ako magta-travel na lang. Babush!” 😝

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  7. “If then that it’s a social issue concerning the country and stuff like that, it’s okay but making Facebook and other social media platforms your burn book? That’s wrong in so many levels.”

    100% agree. Talking about social and political issues and airing dirty laundry for the sake of awareness/safety is one thing. Like, I think name-dropping and calling out individuals when they’ve done bad things and might be a danger to other people is okay (like for example, you posted screenshots and pictures of your ex who beat you up to warn other girls who might get into a relationship with him, ganon). But if it’s petty catfights that you take to the Internet? Bish plz. Di mo ikinaganda yan.

    (On the other hand, I have to admit na may pagka-hypocrite ako re: this because I love throwing shade on Twitter hahaha. Nakaka-gaan ng loob minsan hahahaha.)

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