DISCLAIMER: My thoughts, my opinions. Let’s discuss in a healthy manner. HAHA
STOP MAKING SOCIAL MEDIA YOUR MODERN DAY BURN BOOK.
I guess we could all say that social media is indeed VERY powerful.
About 5 years ago, my thesis research is about social media and its effects to OFWs and their families. Back then, majority of what we wrote and found out are the positive effects and how it helps the communication in families even when they are miles apart. Now, everything has changed!
Was it for the good or the greater evil?
Recently, I have been seeing “awareness” posts, unleashing the “true colors” of other people for all the world wide web to see. Posts here and there from cheating stories, being a kabit (home wrecker) to a person not paying his/her debts, screenshots of convos, pictures of the people they’re shaming and the list goes on. Different styles, different dramas, same goal = revenge. Revenge by what? Shaming other people? Would that resolve things? I mean they could say “that’s their only way”, why not involve the local barangay, the police, your family, power and other stuff? Other normal and civil stuff. I mean social media is being used as a tool, the modern burn book of society.
I came across a Facebook post recently about a girlfriend cheating on her boyfriend for the last 7 years. The guy posted the whole story, dropped the names of the guys that his girlfriend apparently had sex with while being on a relationship with him. Unleashing every single dirty detail about that girl he loved for 7 years. Maybe out of spite? Out of anger and uncontrolled emotions? But posting horrible things like that, flaunting the pictures and screenshots of convos without blurring out the names of people who are involved and the like does not even resolve anything. That does not even take away the pain you actually feel of being cheated on. That’s plain pathetic, immature and well—stupid.
I’m not saying that hey, I can solve things easily with other methods instead of posting nasty things, sending screenshots and all but there are a ton of ways to actually solve things. I am not into violence ah, pero sapakin mo na kung may problema ka, di yung post post ka pa, screenshot screenshot pa eh.
Or if you don’t even want to resolve anything with that person, might as well move on, write in your blog, pour out your feelings WITHOUT harming other people’s reputation, dropping name bombs and all that.
I have been through painful shit with my ex-friends but I never wrote their names nor posted their shit on social media because that wouldn’t make me gain anything. And at the end of the day, it’ll make me look pathetic and helpless. I write whatever I feel, I write and have written what I went through as a coping mechanism, something that will help me heal but I didn’t say their names or showed their photos. I’d never do that not because I want to be friends with them still, but because aside from them being my friends for a long time na may pinagsamahan talaga kami, I wouldn’t want to destroy them and blow things out of proportion even more than it has already been 😉
Also, think about the families of these people you’re bashing on social media. They will definitely be affected diba, They don’t deserve that.
If it’s a personal issue or a concern between someone else, don’t involve the public and those who are not to be involved. It’s best to keep it to yourselves and not post crappy things like this.
(May hugot ako sa screenshots? Lol) But diba, it’s weak kasi eh. If you want to argue with someone, awayin mo nalang in person, awayin mo sa groupchat nyo (hehhezz) pero to post for everyone to see? Seriously?
If then that it’s a social issue concerning the country and stuff like that, it’s okay but making Facebook and other social media platforms your burn book? That’s wrong in so many levels.
I am also not saying that it’s okay to be cheated on or it’s okay to be fooled and stuff. All these things that cause so much emotional trauma and pain to others are not right nor will it ever be, I’m just saying that there are other ways to heal and move on without causing havoc and paninira. Cause then if what you’re saying is true, it will resurface one way or another without you—having to say it. Just my opinion heh.
UPDATE: If parinig and rants naman, it’s okay, we all do that we go through stuff like that na nagpaparinig and nagrarant, pero to the point na malalantad muka nung kaaway mo just because super galit ka na or irita ka na at nag-viral na di rin yata maganda? Iba din effects and repercussions not just sa inyong mga involved but to the people. Personal matters, hindi magandang nakikisawsaw ang mga hindi naman kilala.
photos not mine, taken from google.