I have written a lot of stuff related to this theme but I feel like I have always written in a whim without really thinking clearly hence the jumbled thoughts. Now, I will try to write as clear and as coherent as possible then let’s see how far I can go. LOL.
- Weigh everything before dwelling.
Ever since the world begun, the earth continued to revolve and wouldn’t really stop if your world falls part. Imagine the (small) amount of time you have on earth yet you dwell on things that doesn’t really matter. You work hard every day, you don’t get to sleep very well, you don’t get to spend as much time with your loved ones, you push yourself to the limit which leaves you no time for fun things YET you still dwell on stuff that has no point, meaning or bearing. Now, being grown up doesn’t mean knowing everything but one thing I have learned is, you should weigh everything down before reacting to it. Before dwelling on it. Cause to say the least, not everything is worth it.
- No one really learns well until you’re the one trying to solve the problem.
My mom would always teach me stuff and telling me how I should “learn from her mistakes” which thankfully I did. However, you wouldn’t really know how hard stuff can be unless you were the one in that same position. You wouldn’t know how hard it is to be a parent unless you’re one. You wouldn’t know how much it hurts to be cheated on unless you are the victim. You wouldn’t know how hard it is to not have an education when you’re the one struggling in life. So if you’re one of the people who YOLO their asses off every day, think again. Because as painful as it sounds, life is hard. Seriously.
- Losing is not the end of everything.
Losing is tough and painful. As you get older, you will lose several important people, things, emotions, jobs and everything you can think of. When that happens, you have to accept things as early as you can because losing is not the end of everything. Sure it is sad to lose important people. It is hard to let go of things precious to you. Hard to lose a job you’ve worked so hard for but at the end of the day, these are something that you probably do not need in your life anymore and something you should learn from. As hard as it is, losing is part of your life and there’s nothing you can do about it.
- Stop expecting.
Gone are the days that you will get what you give. People are just different and you can’t always feel bad for yourself when you give too much but receive nothing. I am not talking about material things per se. I mean giving time, love, happiness, help and all the other emotional riches you can give. Because if you don’t already know, you can’t expect people to be just the way you are to them. Adulting is giving without SERIOUSLY waiting for something in return. In this world, in this adult stage, expecting is one of the things you can bury in the ground.
- Life is sweet and terrible.
If life isn’t sweet and terrible, then it shouldn’t be called life. Life is meant to teach you lessons, to make your stay on earth fruitful and meaningful. You have to accept that life wouldn’t always be fun and happy. Life will give you struggle and terrible things that makes you question a lot of stuff but through it all, life is amazing.